Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Dost

The gift of true friendship is that it takes us by the hand and reminds us,we are not alone in the journey of life,

Life is nothing without friendship because it's only in this relationship that one has the freedom to be oneself.

When friendship is once rooted deeply,no storm can uproot it.




Friends ...... They love you,
but they are not your lover
They care for you, but they are not from your familyThey are ready to share your pain, but they are not in your blood relation. They are........FRIENDS!!!!!


No bodies are there with them , their lonely and too old at that time ,
BUT
still love is with them and, that's end of life both of them
that's the thing
I mean That is love
love is not WORD
It's a Life , sacrifise and understading
I thought like that
Thank YOU
My thought:
IAM NOT A LOSER ,IAM NOT A WINNER ,IAM A TRIER!!!
TRYING TO ACHIEVE EVERYTIME “SOMETHING” IN MY LIFE.
WAT ABOUT U…………………………..?



=:LIFE THEORY:=

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying...


















Friends never hard to find...... Friends so quickly come And friends sometimes go But if a friendship is true It will always continue to grow. For the qualities of a friend are too many to describe, But one thing is certain They're never hard to find. Always remember that Friends have feelings too, Don't forget little things that matter Like saying please, and thank you. They often do so much To help us out everyday, Which is definitely why Friends are needed in every way.
So take not for granted The qualities of your friends, For you never know When you may see them again.

Infatuation Vs Love

11 signs that you are in loveELEVEN:You walk really slow when you're with him/her.TEN:You feel shy whenever he/she's around.NINE:You smile when you hear his/her voice.EIGHT:When you look at him/her, you can't see the otherPeople around you, you just see him/her.SIX:He/She is all you think about.FIVE:You realize you're always smiling when you'reLooking at him/her.FOUR:You would do anything for him/her, just to see him/her.THREE:While reading this, there was one person on yourMind this whole time.TWO:You were so busy thinking about that person, You didn't notice number seven was missingONE:You just scrolled up to check & are now silentlyLaughing at yourself.

Infatuation is the initial, instant attraction and intense desire for a person of the opposite sex.Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root, develops and grows one day at a time. The process is slow.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating you. Sometimes you check perhaps even discreetly.Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels the same also and this makes both even more trustworthy.


Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions or some unclear actions about your beloved that you would not like to examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.Love is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles of distance do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company, for the underlying fear that it will end in intimacy.Love is the maturation of friendship. You are confident that you must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation is usually temporary and eventually fades. It, however, might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.Love is an upper. It makes you look up. Love usually lasts longer and goes deeper than strong sexual Feelings. It makes you think up and makes you a better person.
Infatuation makes you feel anxious, nervous and jealous. You feel convinced that you can't live without the other person. You are unable to see the person for who they really are because he/she is perfect in your eyes.Love makes you feel excited. You are willing to respect the other person's opinions and accept the good or bad qualities. You share similar values and beliefs and you see the person for who they really are.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away! I can't risk losing you!"Love says, "Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence. There are rewards in waiting."

FRIENDSHIPP

I gave my heart to youI set my standards highI laid my eyes on you,I laughed and cried with you,I told you my hopes and dreams,My Love and Fears.My tears I shed all over your shoulder.In the end,I came to see that you werethe only guy I could ever trust.When I see you,my face lights up with aspiration, and happiness.When we talk, I can feel the load unloadwith soothing words from you.I have the feeling of love in my heart.In my mind, I say "You don't mean a thing. "In my words, I say "You are just a friend. "But in the deep end of my heart,I think of only youWhen I tell you my expectations of a guy,You tell me never to fall short of what I want.But only one thing stands in the way -You are a friend.Can I still love you the way that I do?

Friday, February 13, 2009

jawed life story

one who does not know the struggle of life is either an immature soul, or a soul who has risen above the life of this world. The object of a human being in this world is to attain to the perfection of humanity, and therefore it is necessary that man should go through what we call the struggle of life.
Because life means a continual battle, one’s success, failure, happiness, or unhappiness mostly depends upon one’s knowledge of this battle. Whatever be one’s occupation in life, whatever be one’s knowledge, if one lacks the knowledge of the battle of life one lacks the most important knowledge of all.
As soon as a man loses the courage to go through the struggle of life, the burden of the whole world falls on his head. But he who goes on struggling through life, he alone makes his way.
One must study the nature of life, one must understand the psychology of this struggle. In order to understand this struggle one must see that there are three sides to it: struggle with oneself, struggle with others, and struggle with circumstances. One person may be capable of struggling with himself, but that is not sufficient. Another is able to struggle with others, but even that is not sufficient. A third person may answer the demands of circumstance, but this is not enough either; what is needed is that all three should be studied and learnt, and one must be able to manage the struggle in all three directions.
The one who struggles with himself first is the wisest, for once he has struggled with himself, which is the most difficult struggle, the other struggles will become easy for him.
What is the nature of the struggle with oneself? It has three aspects. The first is to make one’s thought, speech, and action answer the demands of one’s own ideal, while at the same time giving expression to all the impulses and desires which belong to one’s natural being. The next aspect of the struggle with oneself is to fit in with others, with their various ideas and demands. For this a man has to make himself as narrow or as wide as the place that one asks him to fill, which is a delicate matter, difficult for all to comprehend and practise. And the third aspect of the struggle with oneself is to give accommodation to others in one’s own life, in one’s own heart, large or small as the demand may be.
When we consider the struggle with others there are also three things to think about, of which the first is to control and govern people and activities which happen to be our duty, our responsibility. Another aspect is how to allow ourselves to be used by others in various situations in life; to know to what extent one should allow others to make use of our time, our energy, our work, or our patience, and where to draw the line. And the third aspect is to fit in with the standards and conceptions of different personalities who are at various stages of evolution.
How does the Sufi Struggle? He struggles with power, with understanding, with open eyes, and with patience.
The nature of life is illusive. Under a gain a loss is hidden; under a loss a gain is hidden; and living in this life of illusion it is very difficult for man to realize what is really good for him. Even with a wise person, much of his wisdom is demanded by life and by its battle. One cannot be gentle enough, one cannot be sufficiently kind; the more one gives to life, the more life asks of one. There again is a battle.
The worldly struggle is outward struggle. The struggle on the spiritual path is inward struggle. No sooner does one take the spiritual direction than the first enemy one meets is one’s own self. What does the self do? It is most mischievous. When one says one wants to fight it, it says, ‘I am yourself. Do you want to fight me?’ And when it brings failure, it is clever enough to put the blame on someone else.
The balance of life lies in being as fine as a thread and as strong as a steel wire. If one does not show endurance and strength to withstand all the opposing and disturbing influences among which one always has to be in life, one certainly reveals a weakness and lack of development.
Every circumstance, favourable or unfavourable, in which a man finds himself, and every person, agreeable or disagreeable, in whose presence he is, causes him to react. Upon this reaction depends the man’s happiness and his spiritual progress. If he has control over this reaction, it means that he is progressing; if he has no control over it, it shows that he is going backward.
When a person progresses towards spirituality he must bear in mind that together with his spiritual progress he must strengthen himself against disturbing influences. If not, he should know that however much he desires to make progress he will be pulled back against his will by conditions, by circumstances
All such things as passion and anger and irritation one looks upon as very bad, as evil; but if that evil were kept in hand it could be used for a good purpose, because it is a power, it is an energy. In other words evil, properly used, becomes a virtue; and virtue wrongly used becomes an evil. For instance, when a person is in a rage, or when he really feels like being angry, if he controls that thought and does not express it in words, that gives him great power. Otherwise the expression has a bad effect upon his nerves. His control of it has given him an extra strength which will remain with him. A person who has anger and control is to be preferred to the person who has got neither.
The only difference between spiritual attainment and the continual struggle of life is that in worldly life one struggles in another direction. In worldly life, be it in business or politics or industry or whatever be life’s path, if a person proves to be lacking in that power which enables him to struggle along, he meets nothing but failure. He may be a good person, a saintly person, a spiritual person, but that does not count. It is for this reason that many in the world lose faith in goodness and in spirituality when they see that this goodness does not seem to count in life. It is absurd for a spiritual person to say that by spirituality, goodness, and piety one’s worldly struggle will be helped. One should have the inspiration and power to answer life’s demands in life’s struggle. The seeker on the spiritual path should not forget that floating in the air is no good; standing on the earth is the first thing necessary.
The point is to meet one’s condition with understanding and with complete resignation. Thus the first thing is to meet the condition as it is and the second is to better the condition. The more one can avoid conflict the better; at the same time we cannot always avoid a conflict, and we must not turn our back on it if it comes to us. After all, life is a struggle and we must be ready to struggle. Only, struggle must not make us drunk so that we lose the way of peace which is the first thing to consider.
The only way to live in the midst of inharmonious influences is to strengthen the will power and endure all things, yet keeping fineness of character and nobility of manner, together with an everlasting heart full of love.The end and the sum total of all mysticism, philosophy, and meditation, of everything one learns and develops, is to be a better servant to humanity. Everything from the beginning to the end in the spiritual path is a training to be able to serve mankind better, and if one does not do it with that intention, one will find in the end that one has accomplished nothing.

What does it mean to you to live an easy life? Do youenvision a life on the beach or around a pool, surrounded byeverything you need for relaxation and entertainment? I’mtalking about something else--to me, an Easy Life means alife that is easy to live--a life without struggle orhardship--a life that flows naturally through its cycles--including pain as well as joy, perspiration along withrelaxation, and death as well as birth.The Easy Life requires energy expenditures--often very largeand challenging energy expenditures. The Easy Life is not alife without effort and perspiration. You know what I mean--you’ve worked very hard at times yet felt no stress, norstruggle. Perhaps you experienced this in sportscompetitions, or in exercising, or in a very challengingproject requiring long hours of labor. These efforts, thoughchallenging, were also easy, in that they felt a naturalpart of your life.Life can be easy and each of us can live a life that feelseasy--even when life brings us difficulty. The ten steps Ilist below are my view of the steps to a life withoutstruggle--the Easy Life. Only the first is in priorityorder--without it, none of the other steps will have thedesired impact. I’ll amplify each of the ten steps in futurearticles. For now, briefly stated, here are my Ten Steps toan Easy Life.1. Know that an Easy Life, a life without struggle, is notonly possible, but is natural. If you do not intuitivelyknow this to be true, or know that an Easy Life is withinyour grasp, your life will, indeed, be a struggle. This is afundamental sponsoring thought--life is either easy ordifficult--you choose it and then you get it.2. Understand yourself--recognize your calling in life andlive it in all possible ways. Do what you love and love whatyou do.3. Spend less than you earn--live within your ability toearn while honoring your calling in life.4. Feel your fundamental connection to all people, allliving things, the earth, and the Universe. You are notalone--never have been, never will be.5. Judge nothing--no event, no circumstance of life, and noother person--regardless of how foreign the observation maybe to you. Know that every being is being who they must beat this time--and doing their very best at it.6. Live with intentions, but embrace and honor what showsup. Know that each event, each circumstance, and each personappearing in your life is a gift to you--receive itgraciously. Know that the value of each gift depends on howyou choose to accept and utilize it.7. Love fully and unconditionally. Unconditionally love allbeings--including your self--all living things, all animateand inanimate objects. Love simply because love is theessence of life, the source of life’s joy, and because youchoose to love.8. Know there is enough of all of our precious resources foreveryone--enough money, food, land, and love. Givegenerously of your treasures and your special skills.Compete with another only when both parties agree that acompetition will be great fun--never compete under othercircumstances.9. Live in the present moment. Learn from past behaviors,but harbor no guilt, regret, or resentment. Anticipate thefuture for the adventure it will surely bring. But livenow--for now is all you really have.10. Know that the joy you seek is already with you--deepwithin you, not outside of you where you’ve been seeking it.Joy will manifest itself in your relationships, but thesource of joy is within you. Regularly achieve a quiet mindthrough meditation and meet a wonderful soul--you